Finding the goodness in badness. Looking on the bright side of life, finding the silver lining and all that jazz. This is something that I struggle a lot with, trying to feel okay with feeling bad once in a while. Giving myself permission to have a shitty day.
Often I try to attack my life with optimism, but that doesn’t always work, it can’t always work. No one feels good all the time. Life finds a way to pull you down and keep you there. Everyone has days were things seem hopeless and bleak.
But in order to appreciate feeling good, you have to experience the discomfort of this badness. Though it’s difficult to keep this in mind. It’s like when you sprain or break your thumb, it’s on your mind constantly, every time you go to use it you remember, yet when it’s healed you forget all about the suffering it brought you. You don’t wake up every morning and give thanks that your thumb isn’t broken.
In the same way, it’s hard to look past the pain when it’s thrust upon you. It’s hard to see how it will make you appreciate when your life is good. Right now my life is much better than it was in many aspects. There is a lot that I should feel happy and grateful about every day.
For example, my health has improved seriously in the past few years. I used to be in near constant pain often, and getting through many days was a struggle. Now I can go weeks without having a bad day.
Learning to appreciate this good and not take it for granted is something that I need to work on. Embracing struggles and the bad feels that come along as a lesson and a reminder instead of a punishment to be born would also go a long way to improving my happiness. You can’t have the good without the bad, and nor should you want to. They are tied together, each meaningless without the other.
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